There’s a weight you’ve been carrying. You feel it when you check your bank account.
When you negotiate. When you receive. It’s not visible. But it’s heavy.
And here’s what nobody tells you:
That weight isn’t about what you’re doing wrong now.
It’s about what happened then. The embarrassment at 12. The humiliation at 19.
The shame at 24. Your body remembers how money felt long before your mind understood what money meant. And until you release those memories?
Wealth will always feel like carrying stones uphill. Today, we set them down.
Today we do something most wealth programs skip entirely. Today, we release.
Because here is a truth that will change everything for you:
Your past experiences with money influence your income more than anything you’re currently doing.
Not your effort.
Not your strategy.
Not your intelligence or ambition.
But the emotional memory money holds in your body.
The shame you swallowed at 15 when you wore torn shoes to school.
The humiliation you felt at 22 when your card was declined in front of friends.
The powerlessness you experienced at 28 when you stayed in a relationship because you couldn’t afford to leave.
These aren’t just memories.
They’re operating systems.
And until those memories are acknowledged, witnessed, felt, and released…
Wealth will always carry a charge.
It will feel heavy. Dangerous. Loaded. Unsafe.
And your nervous system — loyal protector that it is — will slow it down, leak it out, or push it away.
This post is about money forgiveness. Not as a spiritual bypass. Not as toxic positivity. But as a non-negotiable wealth practice.
Because you cannot build a solid financial foundation on unresolved emotional rubbles.
Emotional decluttering is not optional.
It is infrastructure.
Take a breath with me.
This work is sacred. And you’re ready for it.
Let’s begin.
PART 1: THE ALCHEMY OF MONEY FORGIVENESS
What Money Forgiveness Actually Is
Let me be very clear from the start:
Money forgiveness is not pretending the past didn’t happen.
It’s not spiritual bypassing.
It’s not “good vibes only.”
It’s not erasing your story to make others comfortable.
Money forgiveness is emotional decluttering.
It is the conscious, courageous process of releasing:
- Shame you carried but never expressed
- Embarrassment you swallowed to stay small
- Anger you suppressed to keep the peace
- Guilt you internalized that was never yours
- Humiliation you normalized because survival required it
- Powerlessness you accepted when you had no other choice
Every unresolved money experience becomes a belief.
Every belief becomes a decision pattern.
Every decision pattern shapes your:
- Income ceiling
- Risk tolerance
- Receiving capacity
- Spending behaviors
- Wealth sustainability
You see, you don’t earn what you want.
You earn what your nervous system feels safe holding.
And safety — real, embodied, lasting safety — is built by clearing the past.
Why Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Forgot
Here’s what makes money wounds so devious:
They don’t live in your conscious mind.
They live in your nervous system.
Your body remembers:
- The tension in the room when your parents fought about bills
- The heat in your cheeks when you couldn’t afford lunch
- The knot in your stomach when you had to ask for help
- The shame that flooded your system when someone said, “We can’t afford that”
These aren’t thoughts you can think your way out of.
They’re somatic memories.
And somatic memories don’t respond to affirmations.
They don’t care about your vision board.
They respond to acknowledgment, witnessing, and release.
This is why you can read every money book, attend every workshop, create the perfect budget…
And still feel triggered when:
- Someone asks you about your income
- You have to negotiate
- Money comes up in conflict
- You try to charge your worth
- You receive unexpectedly
The trigger isn’t about now.
The trigger is a breadcrumb leading you back to then.
And wealthy women? They follow the breadcrumbs.
They don’t ignore them. They don’t bypass them.
They turn toward them with compassion and say:
“Show me what still needs to be released.”
PART 2: WHY YOU CANNOT SKIP THIS STEP
The Myth of “Just Earn More”
Many brilliant women try to outrun their money wounds.
They think:
- “I’ll just earn more”
- “I’ll just charge more”
- “I’ll just invest more”
- “I’ll just receive more”
And they pour all their energy into the external strategy.
More courses.
More coaches.
More tactics.
More hustle.
But here’s what happens: the money comes…And it feels heavy.
It feels:
- Stressful (like it could disappear AT any moment)
- Dangerous (like you’ll be punished for having it)
- Loaded (like it comes with obligations you didn’t agree to)
- Wrong (like you don’t deserve it or took it from someone)
So, the nervous system — doing exactly what it’s designed to do — responds by:
✗ Slowing the money down
✗ Creating financial “emergencies” that drain it
✗ Sabotaging opportunities before they fully land
✗ Leaking wealth through unconscious spending
✗ Pushing money away through undercharging or over-giving
And you think: “See? I’m broken. I can’t hold money.”
But you’re not broken. You’re carrying unprocessed emotional weight. And weight needs a foundation to hold it.
The Hard Truth
Here is the truth wealthy women integrate:
You cannot build a solid money foundation on unresolved emotional debris.
The debris must be cleared first. Not because you’re damaged. Not because you’re doing something wrong.
But because emotional decluttering is infrastructure.
You wouldn’t build a house on unstable ground.
You wouldn’t plant a garden in soil full of rocks and weeds.
So why would you try to build wealth on a foundation of:
- Unprocessed shame
- Unacknowledged anger
- Unwitnessed humiliation
- Unresolved guilt
The answer is: you can’t.
At least, not sustainably.
You might generate money.
But you won’t hold it.
You won’t enjoy it.
You won’t feel safe with it.
And wealth without safety is just another form of anxiety.
PART 3: HOW MONEY WOUNDS ARE FORMED
The Moments That Shaped Your Money Story
Your money wounds weren’t formed by big, dramatic events.
They were formed in quiet moments. Ordinary moments.
Moments like:
Childhood:
- Being told “We can’t afford that” with frustration in their voice
- Watching your parents fight about money in hushed, tense voices
- Feeling embarrassed when your lunch was different from other kids’
- Wearing worn-out shoes and standing a certain way to hide the tears in your clothes
- Asking for something and feeling the weight of being a burden
Teenage Years:
- Not being able to go on the school trip everyone else went on
- Having your card declined in front of friends
- Feeling “less than” because you couldn’t afford what others had
- Learning that asking for money made you difficult or ungrateful
- Being told “money doesn’t grow on trees” when you needed help
Early Adulthood:
- Staying in a job or relationship because you couldn’t afford to leave
- Being financially dependent and feeling the loss of agency
- Making a money mistake and being shamed for it
- Being taken advantage of financially because you were naive
- Watching others succeed while you struggled
Career & Business:
- Being underpaid and not knowing how to ask for more
- Losing money in an investment or business and blaming yourself
- Being criticized for how you spent or saved
- Feeling guilty for prioritizing your financial needs
- Being punished (emotionally, socially) for having financial boundaries
None of these moments were “your fault.”
But all of them taught your nervous system something about money.
And here’s the crucial part:
Your body remembers how money felt, not what you intellectually believe about it.
And your body is the one in charge of your financial decisions.
Not your mind.
The Operating System Beneath Your Strategy
This is why:
You can know you should negotiate — but freeze when it’s time.
You can know you should charge more — but feel guilty doing it.
You can know you should invest — but feel terrified of risk.
You can know you should receive — but find ways to give it away.
Because the operating system beneath your strategy is running on old code.
Code that says:
- “Money is dangerous”
- “Asking is shameful”
- “Having more makes you bad”
- “You’ll be punished if you succeed”
- “Safety means staying small”
Until you rewrite that code? Every strategy is built on quicksand.
PART 4: THE CHRONOLOGICAL CLEARING PROCESS
The Practice That Changes Everything
This is the heart of the blog post. This is the work. If you want to earn more, hold more, and enjoy more money…
You must release every negative emotional charge you hold around it.
No matter how small the memory seems.
No matter how long ago it happened.
No matter how much you’ve “gotten over it.”
Because unprocessed emotions don’t disappear.
They compress. They store. They wait.
And they subtly shape every financial decision you make. Here’s the process:
Step 1: The Chronological Review
I want you to set aside time — real, sacred, uninterrupted time — to go through your life chronologically.
Not rushing.
Not judging.
Just witnessing.
Go through:
Childhood (0-12)
Teenage Years (13-18)
Early Adulthood (19-25)
Career Building (26-35)
Relationships
Business/Entrepreneurship
Current Day
For each phase, gently ask yourself:
📝 Where did I feel embarrassed around money?
📝 Where did I feel powerless financially?
📝 Where did I feel ashamed of my financial situation?
📝 Where did I feel angry about money?
📝 Where did I feel humiliated because of money?
📝 Where did I feel unsafe financially?
📝 Where did I feel guilty for wanting or having money?
Write down what comes up.
Do not judge the memory.
Do not minimize it.
Do not justify what happened.
Just name it. Just see it. Awareness loosens the grip.
Step 2: The Acknowledgment
Once you’ve listed the memories, read them back to yourself. Out loud, if possible.
And for each one, say: “I see this. I acknowledge this happened. I witness the pain this caused.”
This isn’t about wallowing.
This is about honoring your younger self — the version of you who experienced that moment and had no tools to process it.
She wasn’t weak. She wasn’t wrong. She was doing her best with what she had. And she deserves to be seen.
Step 3: The Somatic Release
Here’s where the transformation happens: You must feel the emotion to release it.
Not think about it. Not analyze it. Feel it.
For each memory, close your eyes and ask:
“Where do I feel this in my body?”
Chest? Throat? Stomach? Shoulders?
Place your hand there. Breathe into it.
And say:
“It’s safe to feel this now. I’m no longer in that moment. I’m here. I’m safe. And I’m ready to release this.”
Let whatever needs to come up — tears, anger, grief, relief — come up.
Your body has been holding this for you. Let it go.
Step 4: The Forgiveness Declaration
This is where alchemy happens. After you’ve witnessed and felt the memory, you declare forgiveness. Not because what happened was okay.
But because you deserve freedom.
Say this (adapt to your specific memory):
“I forgive myself for what I didn’t know then.”
“I forgive [person/situation] for what they couldn’t give.”
“I forgive money for the role it played in my pain.”
“I release this experience from defining my financial future.”
“I choose to build my wealth from clarity, not memory.”
Take a deep breath.
That breath is wealth entering a cleared space.
PART 5: WHAT FORGIVENESS IS (AND ISN’T)
The Non-Negotiable Boundaries
Let me be crystal clear, because this matters:
Forgiving money experiences does NOT mean:
✗ What happened was okay
✗ You deserved it
✗ You were weak or naive
✗ You’re condoning bad behavior
✗ You’re letting people off the hook
✗ You have to reconcile with people who harmed you
✗ You’re pretending it didn’t hurt
Forgiveness means:
✓ I release this experience from defining my future
You forgive:
Yourself — for what you didn’t know, for the choices you made from survival, for the years it took you to get here
Others — not because they deserve it, but because carrying anger toward them keeps you chained to the past
Situations — for shaping you in ways you didn’t choose, while knowing you can now choose differently
Money itself — for the role it played, while reclaiming it as a neutral tool
Forgiveness is not for them.
Forgiveness is for you.
It’s the declaration that says:
“I will no longer let what happened then dictate what’s possible now.”
When Forgiveness Feels Impossible
Some of you are thinking:
“But Salima, you don’t understand what happened to me.”
“I was truly betrayed / abandoned / exploited / humiliated.”
“Some things are unforgivable.”
I hear you.
And you’re right — some experiences were devastating. Some betrayals were real. Some harm was significant. But you can still forgive without condoning.
Because forgiveness isn’t about them being right. It’s about you being free.
Carrying rage, shame, or bitterness might feel like power. But it’s actually weight. And weight slows wealth.
You don’t forgive because they deserve it. You forgive because your future deserves a clear channel.
PART 6: THE IDENTITY SHIFT THAT FOLLOWS
What Happens When You Release
Here is the alchemy that most people never experience because they skip this step:
When you release old money emotions, your entire financial reality shifts.
Not because the external circumstances change immediately.
But because you change.
When you clear the emotional debris:
✓ Your decisions become clearer
You stop second-guessing yourself. You stop asking for permission. You simply decide from a place of sovereignty.
✓ Your boundaries sharpen
You can finally say no to financial requests that don’t serve you. You can hold your prices. You can walk away from undervaluing situations.
✓ Your nervous system relaxes
Money stops feeling like a threat. Receiving stops feeling dangerous. Wealth becomes a neutral tool, not an emotional minefield.
✓ Your capacity expands
You can finally hold more — because there’s room. The emotional clutter is gone. Your nervous system has space to receive.
✓ Your income has room to grow
When money isn’t loaded with shame, anger, or fear, it flows more easily. You attract it differently. You keep it longer. You enjoy it more.
Your wealthier self isn’t blocked.
She’s buried under emotional history.
Money forgiveness is how you excavate her.
The Woman Who Emerges
After this work, you become the woman who:
- Negotiates without apologizing
- Receives without guilt
- Charges her worth without justification
- Makes financial decisions from clarity, not fear
- Holds wealth without anxiety
- Enjoys money without shame
Not because you’ve become someone new. But because you’ve released who you had to be to survive. And survival mode is over. Now? You’re building.
The Money Forgiveness Ritual
What you’ll need:
- A journal or paper
- A quiet, private space
- 30-60 minutes of uninterrupted time
- Tissues (trust me)
- Optional: A candle, soft music, something that feels sacred to you
1. Create Sacred Space
Light a candle. Put on soft music. Sit somewhere comfortable.
Place your hand on your heart and say:
“I am safe to remember. I am safe to feel. I am safe to release. I am ready to forgive.”
2. The Chronological Clearing
At the top of your page, write:
“MONEY, THIS IS WHAT I FORGIVE”
Then go through each life phase and write:
Age/Phase: _______
What happened: _______
How it made me feel: _______
What I learned about money from this: _______
What I’m ready to release: _______
Do this for every memory that carries an emotional charge.
3. The Acknowledgment
Read each memory aloud.
After each one, place your hand on your heart and say:
“I see this. I witness this. I honor what this taught me. And I’m ready to release it.”
4. The Somatic Release
For the biggest, most charged memories:
Close your eyes.
Locate where you feel it in your body.
Breathe into that space.
Let whatever emotion wants to surface — come up.
Cry. Rage. Grieve. Let it move through you.
Emotion is energy in motion.
Let it move.
5. The Forgiveness Declaration When you’ve cleared the emotions, write at the bottom of your page:
“I FORGIVE”
I forgive myself for what I didn’t know.
I forgive [names/situations] for what they couldn’t give.
I forgive money for the pain it witnessed.
I release these experiences from defining my financial future.
I choose to build my wealth from clarity, not memory.
I am safe to be wealthy.
I am safe to hold money.
I am safe to enjoy abundance.
I am worthy of financial freedom.
And I claim it now.
6. The Closing
Take three deep breaths.
Place both hands on your heart.
Say:
“It is done. I am clear. I am free. I am wealthy.”
Blow out the candle.
Close the ritual.
What Happens After
In the days and weeks following this ritual, pay attention:
- Money might show up unexpectedly
- Opportunities might arrive more easily
- You might feel lighter around financial decisions
- Old patterns might try to resurface (this is normal — just witness and release again)
- Your relationship with money might feel… different. Softer. Clearer. Safer.
This is evidence the work is integrating.Trust the process.
Today we released.
Because wealth doesn’t respond to force.
Wealth responds to clean channels. And you, my love, are now clearing the path
Salima
Just me thinking out loud over here