Hey besties, welcome back to Thinking Like A Wealthy Woman. podcast.
I’m so glad you’re here today because I want to get real and vulnerable about something that kept me stuck for years — shame.
In the next few episodes, I’ll be sharing money blocks that once kept me mentally imprisoned — and how I overcame them.
You know that feeling when others around you are shining, traveling, learning, growing — just living — and you feel… small? Like you don’t belong or measure up?
That was me for a long time.
My family’s financial situation made me hide. I avoided gatherings, skipped invitations, and slowly began to dim my light and withdraw from the circles I used to frequent.
Shame became a constant companion — and over the years, it chipped away at my voice and my self-esteem.
Every time I hit a financial roadblock; I gave up. And that was all the time, the road block always disappeared with someone’s assistance, a relative or a friend.
Even when I moved to Malaysia, shame followed me. I’d rehearse how to order at restaurants because I thought my accent was terrible. And yet, when the time came to speak, I’d freeze. Shame silenced me.
I had dreams of becoming an entrepreneur, but I didn’t believe I could start anything on my own.
And that lack of belief?
It was a major money block.
Every time I had a new idea, shame whispered:
“Who do you think you are?”
“You don’t know enough.”
“You can’t do this.”
Instead of believing in myself, I looked for someone to validate me — to partner up, to approve, to lead. If they said no, I dropped the idea. If they said yes but didn’t follow through, I’d run myself into the ground trying to convince them and carry it all.
I was exhausted — and empty.
I was so impressed by others. They looked smart. They sounded smart.
And I forgot something vital: everything is learned.
I was living life with my head down.
And the more I practiced shame, the lower it sank.
It kept me from walking into rooms, asking questions, joining communities, taking up space — from living.
But one day, something shifted.
My soul screamed loud enough for me to finally listen. I was done living that way.
I started blogging — just me, my words, and my truth.
And slowly, the shame started to dissolve. I began to see myself again.
Blogging gave me back my voice.
It helped me uncover desires I didn’t even know I had.
It gave me the confidence to speak up in meetings, and the courage to enroll in my very first Millionaire Mindset event — a powerful 3-day experience run by the team of author T. Harv Eker. We were only 2 black people in the entire place and a few years ago, that would have been a deal breaker for me, and I met some wonderful people there.
I even took a one-day trip to Singapore just to attend another one of their events.
Blogging became a gateway — it led me to podcasting, to standing taller in who I am, and to learning how to say no with confidence and clarity.
I could tell you countless stories about the ripple effect of doing something as simple — yet deeply powerful — as writing.
It’s something I love. And it’s changed my life.
Here’s what I want you to remember:
Shame will eat away at your confidence, your creativity, and your capacity to earn — but you are not your shame.
You can rewrite the story.
Think about what you love — maybe it’s writing, like me, or painting, cooking, dancing.
Even if it doesn’t make money at all do it. It will awaken something powerful inside you. This is about cultivating joy from inside out and nurturing your life.
Instead of asking, “Why can’t I do this?”
Ask, “How can I make it possible for me?”
You are worthy of a life where you hold your head high. And together, we will break these money blocks — one step at a time.
Thanks for listening. If this episode touched your heart, share it with someone who needs it.
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I’m cheering for you — keep shining, keep growing, and keep thinking like a wealthy woman. 💫
Salima
Just me thinking out loud over here