The moment always comes for me right after a big expenditure. That sinking feeling in my stomach. The panic whisper: “What if this was a mistake?”
My mind immediately runs to my main source of income — as if it’s the only lifeline I’ll ever have. Suddenly, all I can see is the money flowing out, and I start clutching onto what’s left as though it’s all there is, all there ever will be.
It’s in those moments that my limiting beliefs come rushing to the surface — loud, convincing, and suffocating. Fear reveals itself. Lack reveals itself. My relationship with money reveals itself.
And that’s when this truth hits me hardest:
Circumstances don’t make the man; they only reveal him to himself.
Because the bill, the expense, the financial decision — it doesn’t create fear. The fear was already inside me. The circumstance just drew it out into the light.
But here’s the beautiful part: once it’s revealed, I get to decide what I do with it. I can stay in fear, shrinking, holding onto money like it’s scarce… Or I can choose to shift.
🌸 Shift my focus from what is leaving — to what is waiting to come in.
🌸 Shift my attention from protecting — to creating.
🌸 Shift my belief from “this is all I have” — to “my potential to earn is limitless.”
Because wealth isn’t about hoarding what’s in your hands right now. Wealth is about knowing you are a channel. Money flows through you, not just to you. And when one stream slows down, you have the power, creativity, and resourcefulness to open another.
Big expenditures no longer must feel like endings. They can be beginnings — a mirror reflecting back whether you are living in fear of loss or in the energy of expansion. And every single time, you get to choose again.
Life has a way of testing us, doesn’t it? We go through challenges, delays, disappointments, and even triumphs. In those moments, it’s easy to believe that our circumstances are shaping us. But the truth is much deeper: circumstances don’t make us who we are, they only reveal us.
Think about it. When pressure builds, when life gets uncomfortable, when uncertainty surrounds us — what rises to the surface? Not something brand new, but what was already inside us all along. Challenges simply pull back the curtain.
✨ If there is patience inside, it will show.
✨ If there is anger inside, it will rise.
✨ If there is faith inside, it will shine.
Circumstances are mirrors, not sculptors. They don’t create characters, they expose it.
And here’s the empowering part: once something is revealed, you have the power to decide what stays and what changes. If you don’t like what your circumstances reflect back to you, that’s an invitation to grow, not a reason to despair.
Instead of asking “Why is this happening to me?” try asking:
- “What is this showing me about myself?”
- “How can I use this to grow stronger, wiser, freer?”
When you shift your perspective, life stops being something that happens to you and becomes something that happens for you.
Because circumstances will come and go — the storms, the sunshine, the wins, the losses. But the real work, the real journey, is discovering the self-that’s revealed in the process.
So, the next time life presses against you, remember it’s not creating who you are. It’s revealing who you already are — and who you’re becoming.
✨ Journal Prompts for Your Readers:
- Think of a recent situation that felt challenging. What part of yourself did it reveal?
- Did you like what you saw? Why or why not?
- What new qualities would you like to strengthen so they show up next time?
- How can you reframe your current circumstance as a mirror instead of a burden?
Salima
Just me thinking out loud over here