Today, we’re going to explore something that wealthy women understand deeply — something that has nothing to do with income, but everything to do with intimacy.
Yes, we’re talking about money intimacy — the kind of closeness and care that turns numbers into a relationship, and fear into flow.
“Your relationship with money isn’t just about money — it’s about how safe you feel handling it.”
🌹 Segment 1: What Money Intimacy Really Means
Let’s start with what intimacy truly is. Intimacy means familiarity, closeness, understanding — it’s what happens when you know someone’s moods, fears, and needs, and you still choose to stay connected.
Now imagine bringing that same energy into your relationship with money. That’s what I call money intimacy — the ability to stay close to your money, to listen to it, to understand it, to care for it.
Every one of us already has a relationship with money. The question is:
- Do you feel calm, safe, and supported when you think about it?
- Does money feel like a partner that wants to grow with you?
- Or does it feel like a source of tension — something you avoid, something you fear? Something you keep at a distance.
I want you to think about someone you’ve been truly intimate with. For me, that person was my father. With him, I felt loved, cared for, and protected. I felt safe in this world.
I loved listening to him talk, and even now when I go back home, I find myself reading his writings to get to know him better — to feel that closeness again.
That’s what intimacy feels like — familiarity, care, curiosity.
And when a mentor Tonya Leigh introduced me to the concept of money intimacy,
“And in that moment, I realized — this feeling of love, safety, and connection… that’s what I wanted to recreate with my money too.”
Because money, like love, responds to attention.
💫 Segment 2: If Your Money Were a Person
Let’s play with an idea for a moment. If your money were a person, how would it describe your relationship right now?
Would it say:
“She avoids me. She only thinks of me when I’m gone.”
Or would it say:
“She checks in with me. She knows where I am, she celebrates me, and she trusts me to grow.”
We treat our money the same way we treat energy, our bodies, our dreams — with either neglect or nourishment.
Avoidance doesn’t just block financial growth; it blocks intimacy with ourselves. When you avoid your money, you’re often avoiding the parts of you that crave attention — your desires, your fears, your potential.
So today, I want you to begin seeing your money not as numbers, but as a mirror.
A reflection of how close you allow yourself to be with your own life.
🌍 Segment 3: The Two Women — The Avoider vs. The Intimate Wealthy Woman
Now, let’s imagine these two women.
The first is The Avoider. She feels anxious around money. She doesn’t check her account until she has to. She tells herself she’s bad with money, so she disconnects — and every time she does, money slips further away.
Then there’s The Intimate Wealthy Woman. She knows her numbers, not because she’s obsessed, but because she’s connected. She checks in regularly, plans with intention, and celebrates every inflow — no matter the size.
She speaks to her money like she would to a trusted friend: with gratitude, with awareness, with respect.
“The woman who gets intimate with her money isn’t perfect — she’s just present. And presence is what wealth is built on.”
Now pause for a second and ask yourself — which one are you today, and which one are you becoming?
💎 Segment 4: Knowing Your Numbers — The Language of Intimacy
Intimacy begins with awareness. You can’t love what you refuse to look at. “One of the simplest — and most powerful — acts of money intimacy is knowing your net worth.”
It’s not about judgment or comparison — it’s about clarity. Because clarity breeds confidence.
Your net worth isn’t for bragging rights — it’s your financial mirror, a reflection of your current relationship with money. When you look at it with love instead of fear, you gain power.
What is Net Worth?
Your net worth is simply your financial reflection:
Assets minus Liabilities. What you own, minus what you owe.
Think of your assets as your money garden — the seeds that have already grown:
💰 Cash on hand and in the bank (checking, savings, digital wallets).
🏠 Real estate — home, land, or rentals.
🚗 Vehicles.
💼 Investments and business equity.
👗 Personal valuables — jewelry, art, instruments, collectibles.
🌳 Insurance cash value.
🧾 Retirement funds.
Then list your liabilities — where your money is still in circulation, doing work for you:
💳 Credit cards.
🏠 Mortgage or rent arrears.
🚗 Car loans.
🎓 Student loans.
💼 Business loans.
🧾 Taxes or unpaid bills.
💍 Personal debts — money borrowed from family or friends.
Now subtract: Total Assets – Total Liabilities = Your Net Worth.
When you know that number, you stop guessing. You start relating to your money from a place of truth — and truth creates safety, intimacy, and direction.
Have a Monthly “Money Date”
Your net worth shifts every month, just like your energy. That’s why I encourage a monthly check-in, intimacy matters — you check in regularly, not once in a lifetime.
I recommend a monthly money date: light a candle, play your favorite playlist, pour something you love, and spend 30 minutes reviewing your financial health — not with shame, but with curiosity.
When you do, you’ll notice something magical: your money starts to respond. Like any relationship, the more love and attention you give it, the more it blooms.
🌙 Segment 5: Rewriting the Story
“Now that you’ve looked at your numbers, it’s time to look at your story. Because numbers reflect the past, but your story can create the future.”
Your current net worth is not your destiny; it’s a reflection of your past thoughts and choices.
Ask yourself:
- What beliefs built this reality?
- What emotions have I been bringing to my money relationship?
And then — ask yourself what story you want to write next. Because the moment you stop judging and start observing with compassion, you shift from fear to intimacy. From control to connection. From scarcity to safety.
✨ Segment 6: The Wealthy Woman’s Ritual
Before you end your day, try this: Open your banking app, take a deep breath, and simply say “thank you.”
Thank your money for showing up for you, for circulating in your life, for teaching you responsibility and growth.
Even if it’s not where you want it to be yet — gratitude is the first step of intimacy.
You don’t fall in love with perfection; you fall in love through presence.
💖 Closing Message
Money intimacy isn’t about knowing more — it’s about feeling more.
It’s learning to be at ease with your money, to care for it, to respect it the way you respect yourself.
Because the truth is, your money will always meet you at the level of your relationship with it.
So, get close.
Get curious.
Get intimate with your money.
That’s how wealthy women think — and that’s how you become one. “So go ahead… light your candle, open your heart, and meet your money with love.”
Salima
Just me thinking out loud over here